The other side of the father-less generation is… the father-less generation.

I have been thinking a lot about this recently. I have a good friend who has a book coming out on this topic later this year as well as also works with author, Donald Miller on his mentoring project.

When I read the stories, my heart breaks for these children without a father in their life. Quite frankly, in a grown up sort of way… it makes me think about my own father who passed away in 2003.

In my case, my loss was a part of life’s natural progression. As parents when we raise our kids, we do our best to aim them in the right direction. However, at some point… we need to let go of the arrow and hope we aimed well.

Sadly, for many kids… they don’t even get this chance.

But, what has stuck with me is what I am finding on the other side of this discussion.

Unfortunately, I am fairly confident there are no stats to support what I am about to say, but, there is another father-less generation out there that simply breaks my heart…

It’s a father-less generation of kids who have dads, live under the same roof, and yet still… don’t even “know” them.

With this, here is a message to me and other dads…

Put down the remote
Put down the cell phone
Put down the laptop
Open your eyes
Open your ears
Throw your watch away
…and figure it out!

You are a father… act like one.

There are way too many kids who don’t actually have father’s in their lives, and that is not their choice. Don’t be another stat.

With your child what are you doing right now to raise them right? To aim them well? and for them to know that they are loved?

It is not too late to begin.

No child should be father-less. Whether it be your own or through the amazing work of the mentoring project… we all have a role to play and I think… it is time for us to play it.


3 responses »

  1. brittanylassiter says:

    Thank you for bringing attention to those of the “other” fatherless generation as I can count myself among them. For years I felt that I didn’t have the right to speak up about the difficulty of growing up without a dad because technically I had one. I took me some time to acknowledge to myself and others that while my dad had inhabited the same four walls as I did not mean that my dad’s failure to engage in my life didn’t leave a mark. It did and the mark it left was vast and deep.

    The Lord has brought deep and profound healing to the scars left as a result of my dad’s inactive engagement. And, my dad has changed a fair amount over the past few years and while I can’t say our relationship is deep it is reciprocal and that’s a huge improvement from what it was.

    So, for the “other” fatherless people out there, I’ve heard it said that wounds don’t heal unless you feel them; grant yourself permission to acknowledge the void an absentee father has left. Grieve the loss. Get angry. Get sad. Acknowledgement of the loss is the first step on the road to recovery. And, my prayers are with each of you in this situation… the road ahead will be hard but it will be marked with victories that you never thought possible.

    • gunsim says:

      Thank you so much for taking to read this and post a comment. Your words are so true with regards to that which the Lord has done. Thanks for your words of encouragement which I know were birthed out of many painful memories. God bless you, my friend! G!

  2. Travis says:

    I saw your post on facebook and wanted to read your blog. Very well said. I also wanted to leave a link to my book (i’m not big on self promotion either, but it fits.)

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